I have been fortunate enough to be raised around and work with what I believe to be some of the most intelligent and caring people I have ever met.
To me intelligence is not only your ability to retain information, or have the ability to thoroughly communicate with others, it is also your ability in Effective Decision Making.
Communication in decision making is a key factor and three things to really help you are:
- Listen: This requires closing your mouth and directing your attention to the person speaking, do not let your mind wander.
- Ask Questions: Ask questions about absolutely everything. An inquiring mind is a brilliant mind.
- Acknowledge a persons strengths: Just because someone does not enjoy or understand certain things that you do (i.e. Farmer vs. Banker) Both have there strengths and bring extreme value and knowledge in their respective area.
A very intelligent man that I work with on a regular basis outlined these 4 points on effective decision making yesterday afternoon. Although they were spoken in more mathematical terms they relate to every area of decision making.
1. Proof
- Gather and show your supporting data
2. Evaluate
- What are you looking for in this data
3. Are you satisfied with the current results
- If not, what improvements are you making
4. Why do you recommend that decision
- Write out your recommendation as though you need to have it approved by someone else
If you follow these steps as you meet decisions head on in life, you should have no issue making an effective one.
Remember, an effective decision is not always a the fun decision.
Affectionately, Tornado Aly
11/11/11
11/10/11
The Power of Choice
It's so saddening and disheartening to know there is nothing you can do or say to save someone that you love beyond measure. Someone who has entered a destructive relationship and can't see it. An adult given the power of choice and this is what they chose...
We as humans, can be very selfish by nature, saying we are doing something for the benefit of another when truly it's based on our wants. We've lost hope in the fact that things change and the best is yet to come.
We begin thinking there is no way that I will ever survive. Those things wont happen for me. That's nice, but your more special than I am. I'm damaged goods that no one will ever except.
God has given us all the power of choice and decision, but sometimes we make the wrong ones rationalizing them to fit our wants not our needs.
The weakness that enters our body from the loneliness of wanting to share your love and life with someone else can seem unbearable at times. We can make rash decisions based on this loneliness and can end up with an abusive partner, men and women.
Abuse does not solely mean physical "punishment." It can be emotional abuse and verbal abuse.
Once you are "broken" by this person, you begin to believe the things that they say to you. You begin to feel worthless and emotionally drained. You feel as though there is no possible way that anyone could ever want you especially when this person you have given your whole heart barely wants you.
You begin to blame yourself and have a tendency to cover up for them saying, oh they wont do it again. They didn't really lie, I just misunderstood. It's my fault they blew up, I know they don't like that and I could have prevented it.
Each time you excuse their wrongs, it only encourages them to continue the behavior.
It can seem impossible to escape this viscous life style because of your feeling of being worthless. If they leave you, you feel your life is over. It is very easy to go back to this person when given the opportunity due to your brokenness. But let me say, abusive nature does NOT end. It is a character issue. A life changing moment of death or some other traumatic event is likely the only way to "change" these people, you cannot. And they will not for you.
People who have children with an abusive partner will say things like, but they need their dad/mom. Children need both of their parents.
While this is true in most cases, you need to sit back and think, do I really want my child raised in this environment? Do I really want them to have this person's character flaws? Because even when you say oh they wont be like that they're my children! This is not true, children act like BOTH of their parents when raised with them, it is WRONG and it is SELFISH for you to keep them in a situation like that, especially knowing full well the destruction to others that it causes.
I am not endorsing separation or divorce due to laziness, I am trying to explain that this behavior is not acceptable. Ever. For any reason.
God gave you the power of choice for a reason, to create the best life possible, not to accept things the way that they are.
Never settle.
Be very picky.
Write down your desires in a partner and never quit until you find them.
Leave everything to chance (that's when you will find them.)
No one is perfect I understand, but the person who deserves you will treat you like you are...
Affectionately, Tornado Aly
We as humans, can be very selfish by nature, saying we are doing something for the benefit of another when truly it's based on our wants. We've lost hope in the fact that things change and the best is yet to come.
We begin thinking there is no way that I will ever survive. Those things wont happen for me. That's nice, but your more special than I am. I'm damaged goods that no one will ever except.
God has given us all the power of choice and decision, but sometimes we make the wrong ones rationalizing them to fit our wants not our needs.
The weakness that enters our body from the loneliness of wanting to share your love and life with someone else can seem unbearable at times. We can make rash decisions based on this loneliness and can end up with an abusive partner, men and women.
Abuse does not solely mean physical "punishment." It can be emotional abuse and verbal abuse.
Once you are "broken" by this person, you begin to believe the things that they say to you. You begin to feel worthless and emotionally drained. You feel as though there is no possible way that anyone could ever want you especially when this person you have given your whole heart barely wants you.
You begin to blame yourself and have a tendency to cover up for them saying, oh they wont do it again. They didn't really lie, I just misunderstood. It's my fault they blew up, I know they don't like that and I could have prevented it.
Each time you excuse their wrongs, it only encourages them to continue the behavior.
It can seem impossible to escape this viscous life style because of your feeling of being worthless. If they leave you, you feel your life is over. It is very easy to go back to this person when given the opportunity due to your brokenness. But let me say, abusive nature does NOT end. It is a character issue. A life changing moment of death or some other traumatic event is likely the only way to "change" these people, you cannot. And they will not for you.
People who have children with an abusive partner will say things like, but they need their dad/mom. Children need both of their parents.
While this is true in most cases, you need to sit back and think, do I really want my child raised in this environment? Do I really want them to have this person's character flaws? Because even when you say oh they wont be like that they're my children! This is not true, children act like BOTH of their parents when raised with them, it is WRONG and it is SELFISH for you to keep them in a situation like that, especially knowing full well the destruction to others that it causes.
I am not endorsing separation or divorce due to laziness, I am trying to explain that this behavior is not acceptable. Ever. For any reason.
God gave you the power of choice for a reason, to create the best life possible, not to accept things the way that they are.
Never settle.
Be very picky.
Write down your desires in a partner and never quit until you find them.
Leave everything to chance (that's when you will find them.)
No one is perfect I understand, but the person who deserves you will treat you like you are...
Affectionately, Tornado Aly
10/27/11
Who are these people? Where am I?!?
GPS to Southwest Kansas but apparently it got confused and I landed somewhere between a Ripley Circus and... the Ghetto.
I was excited about neither.
was a good idea!!?? I mean I can honestly tell you this is one of the most bizzar things I have ever encountered and it's painted onto a persons motor vehicle. That they drive. EVERYDAY.
What about the old man that likes to ride his ginormous bike around town? I keep waiting for little bears in hats to start juggling each time I see him. Yeah it wasn't just a once thing this bike toting gentlemen rides around on a regular basis. If you ask me that's quite a fall looking for a place to happen. Don't come crying to us when you need a hip replacement, it's not our fault you like to be a one act show.
And lets not leave out the openly public bathrooms that seem to be mighty popular round these parts.
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That's just completely unnecessary. Seriously. I want to meet the person who designed this bathroom and shake there hand for being one of the biggest idiot... ever. I'm going to start taking pictures every time I come across one of these beauties and create a collage for all of my faithful readers.
Someone save me before Im sucked further into this *Twilight Zone*
- Affectionately, Tornado Aly
10/24/11
Fall Delivery
I spent Saturday afternoon with my cattleman unloading calves out of Colorado. I really enjoy spending time with him doing something we both love so much. It was the perfect day too, the OSU Cowboys had a great win in the noon game and the weather was spectacular, 75 and sunny with little wind!
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| Backing in the driver |
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| Start the unloading |
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| counting calves as they come off the trailer |
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| double count |
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| waiting on more calves |
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| counting again (can you see a pattern yet) |
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| sorting by sex |
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| Calves in a holding area |
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| holding area |
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| Holding Area |
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| turning lose |
We unloaded seven trailers full coming up to 750 head of fresh weaned calves. Needless to say it was an extremely noisy event due to all of the balling, but they're doing better now getting used to the new environment. I can't wait for next weekend we should be getting another 800!
- Affectionately, Tornado Aly
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